Lifestyle in Malaysia
Marriage and Family
The extended family is central to Malaysian life,
and it is quite usual for two or more generations to live in the same house.
Cooperation, loyalty, and unity are important in the family. Age is respected.
However, modernization and urbanization have brought changes,
and in urban areas nuclear families are more common,
with members of the extended family living in the same city or neighbourhood,
although not the same house. Many couples are also choosing to have smaller
families than has traditionally been the case.
Some marriages are still arranged by families, and even when people are choosing marriage
partners for themselves they usually do so in consultation with family members.
A marriage is believed to join not only two people but also two families.
Customs and ceremonies vary according to religion.
Diet and Eating
Rice is the staple and fish the main source of protein. Spices are used a lot in cooking.
Local fruit includes pineapples, bananas, papayas, and durians. Durians are large,
oval-shaped, and foul-smelling, but tasty and considered the best of fruits.
Malaysians enjoy dining out at restaurants or at street food markets.
In Kuala Lumpur, restaurants serve a wide range of cuisine. Outside the capital,
the range is narrower.
Eating customs vary among ethnic groups. Traditionally,
Malays and Indians eat with their hands and with spoons and forks.
Chinese eat with chopsticks, spoons, and forks. Some cultural groups refrain from eating
certain foods—for example, Muslims do not eat pork or drink alcoholic beverages.
Hindus and some Buddhists do not eat beef.
Men usually greet each other with a handshake, but close friends use both hands to grasp
the hand of the other. A slight bow or nod of the head is common when greeting an older person.
Women and elderly persons seldom shake hands but may offer verbal greetings.
Business cards are usually exchanged after an introduction; the ritual is important because
business cards give a clear idea of someone’s status and therefore the correct level of courtesy
that should be extended. The usual greeting to a non-Malay is Selamat pagi (“Good morning”).
A casual greeting is Halo (“Hello”), or more common among the mostly Muslim population is Salaam
Aleikum. Another frequently used phrase is Afa khabar (“How are you?” or “What’s new?”).
A slight bow when greeting, leaving, or passing a group of people is a common courtesy—the
equivalent in some other countries of saying “Excuse me” Visiting relatives and friends is an
important part of Malaysian life, especially when one does not share a house with the extended
family. Dropping by without prior arrangement is common, although most people in urban areas
telephone in advance. Guests are often invited to the home for a meal or socializing.
Many business relationships are formed through entertaining. When invited, guests are generally
not expected to arrive on time, so it is not uncommon for scheduled events and appointments to
start later than expected. Shoes should be removed when entering a home, and if refreshments
are offered, one should accept so as not to give offence. Drinks are offered and received with
both hands. At festival times, Malaysians follow the custom of the “open house,” when homes
are open to all who come, irrespective of class, ethnicity, or status.
Soccer and badminton are the country’s most popular sports. Others include field hockey,
cricket, rugby, and table tennis. There are also facilities for swimming, tennis, cycling,
volleyball, and squash. Traditional activities include sepaktakraw (a competitive team sport
played with a rattan ball), gasing (which involves spinning heavy tops for long periods of time),
and martial arts (particularly silat). Other popular activities include kite flying,
watching television and films, and visiting friends. A number of festivals provide recreational
high points during the year.
Holidays and Celebrations
There are many holidays throughout the year in Malaysia, including national holidays,
religious holidays reflecting Malaysia’s range of religions, and festivals celebrated only in
certain regions.Among the national holidays are the international New Year’s Day (1 January),
Labour Day (1 May), and the Birthday of the King or Yang di-Pertuan Agong (currently 4 June).
The Chinese New Year is a week-long festival in January or February. Also celebrated is Merdeka
Day (31 August): Merdeka means independence, and on this day Malaysia’s independence from the
British in 1957 is celebrated. There are parades and special exhibitions, and the streets are
The three chief Islamic holidays include Hari Raya Puasa, the three-day feast at the end of
the month of Ramadan; Hari Raya Haji, the Feast of Sacrifice at the end of the pilgrimage to
Mecca (Makkah); and the birthday of the prophet Muhammad. Mandi Safar, in the second Muslim
month, is a Muslim bathing festival that is not observed in any other country. Its origin is
believed to derive from Muhammad’s last bath before his death, and it is known to be a
Wesak Day (in May) commemorates the birth of Buddha. For the birth date of the Buddhist
Goddess of Mercy, Kuan Yin, women make pilgrimages to her temples bearing flowers, fruit,
and cakes, and pray for her good will. Deepavali is a Hindu festival in October or November
that celebrates the triumph of Lord Krishna over a demon king. Hindus prepare for Deepavali by
cleaning their homes and setting clay lamps along their windows and roofs to welcome Lakshmi,
the Hindu goddess of wealth and prosperity. It is believed that Lakshmi will decline to bless a
home that is not ablaze with lights to greet her. Christmas Day (25 December) is a national
holiday. The Dayak ethnic groups also celebrate various festivals that mark the harvest,
honour the dead, and venerate heroes; in May, the Kadazan (festivals) celebrate the harvest.
There are also local holidays in each state.
Malaysia’s high degree of diversity has resulted in the custom of holding open house on special
days for those who belong to different ethnic and religious groups. For example,
Christians hold open house at Christmas; Chinese at their New Year; Hindus at Deepavali; and
Muslims at Hari Raya Puasa. Different calendars are used to determine each group’s holidays.